Human beings are remarkably adaptable. During times of crisis, such as wars, man made and natural disasters, and, yes, pandemics…we mobilize. Our collective human “brain” registers very quickly that there is a very real existential “threat”, and we learn to reset our brains to adapt to a new set of rules. The “rules” often permeate every facet of our daily lives…how we live, how we work, and how we play. Neuroscientists refer to the brain’s ability to adapt as “neuroplasticity”. This is an amazing skill that has allowed our species to survive and thrive.

Just as we have survived many crises in the past, much of the world (not all) is now emerging slowly out of the covid pandemic. We abide by “shelter in place” and masking directives, and we have learned to connect via video devices. However, we have also “learned”, I would argue, that we should fear large indoor gatherings…including family gatherings.

But now…now things have changed again. We have the vaccine! The world is opening up and we are encouraged to participate more fully in life again. Among people I know, however, it is not so easy. We are fearful. Our wonderfully neuroplastic brains are registering “threat” when we see a large unmasked crowd. Conversations about vaccine status are awkward…but necessary. Some of us find ourselves retreating into the safe “cave” of our home where we know we can control the environment. So what can we do? We want to get back into life again, but we are scared. Here are some thoughts on the subject:

Be patient with yourself, and others. Discuss your fears as you listen to the fears of others. We are all different and have our own individualized timetable. Respect the differences.

Stay true to yourself. Don’t compromise any of your own feelings and beliefs for the comfort of others.

Make an incremental plan to re-engage. The experience of covid was traumatic, so you are now in the post traumatic phase where you gradually re-expose yourself to the things you would never do during the “shelter in place” phase.

Know that the longer you “cave” in your safe space the harder it will be to break out. The danger of “sheltering in” for too long is that “agoraphobia” (fear of leaving home) can develop.

Be more physically active as you play outdoors more. Nothing dissipates stress better than physical exercise, and it creates “feel good” endorphins as well.

See if you can identify unexpected “perks” to this covid experience. For me it was learning to use Zoom and exploring the regional parks. What about you?

Laugh and Play. Last but not least, engage in activities with others that bring you joy and laughter. Nothing resets the brain better than sharing the good feelings of joy with loved ones. Your neurotransmitters will be flooded with endorphins, and you will realize you are not alone…far from it.

AS WE HAVE ALL SUFFERED TOGETHER SO SHALL WE ALL HEAL TOGETHER